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Coach, Consultant, Counsellor or Mentor … How beneficial are they?

There seems to be a general misconception that Coaching, Consulting, Counselling or Mentoring are all much of a muchness, but this couldn’t be further away from the truth.

To give it some clarity, here is a brief overview of each:

COACH

When things are tough with no visible clear path, a coach will help you get back on track. Through incisive questioning (2 ears 1 mouth approach) they will help you establish what you wish to achieve. Helping you see the difference between a dream and a goal then establish the reality of achieving it. From here, clear, timely actions are laid down to recognise and overcome gaps between where you are now and the end objective. Learning from your obstacles, your coach will help and support you with areas you are unfamiliar with or concerned of trying. Expertise in your field is not necessary (you are the expert after all) as this style is predominantly focusing on the individual and how to lift them to their highest pedestal.

CONSULTANT

Based on their learnings, they will advise on the best way they believe will help you achieve the objective for you to work on. Often, there will be a tried and tested ‘blueprint’ report that they may submit for you to work with. Specialism is the strength here so always advisable to look to someone who knows your type of business.

COUNSELLOR

Generally counsellors help you overcome historical events that are dragging you back from progressing forward.

MENTOR

A mentor will assess what you have done, demonstrate another means of doing the task, then ask you to follow suit with guidance on how to accomplish the task before you.

At different points in our career, work or life, we can benefit from each of these areas and it illustrates strength in character to recognise that you wish to better yourself.

Often we see those lacking in confidence hide behind a big front of bravado seemingly knowing how to do everything you discuss with them and have always done it better! Some of you will now be thinking of someone who fits that descriptive.

As Plato put it “Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.”

Depending on what people are requiring, I will adopt areas mainly from coaching, mentoring and some consulting in areas I am familiar with. As an expert in coaching/mentoring, counselling is another specialist area and best left to those experts of which I can offer recommendations.

  • Identify what you need

Establish what it is that you are looking to achieve. Overcoming obstacles that stand before you with someone supporting you as you explore new avenues (Coach). Being instructed on what to do (Consultant). Overcoming issues holding you back from moving forward (Counsellor) or having guidance and shown what to do (Mentor).

  • Who can help you

Sometimes people you work with may be sufficient. The downside is that there is personal connectivity and this may interfere with honesty, especially where emotions are concerned. So do your research, look for those who can help you out.

  • Be considerate

Remember, whoever you chose to help you out is there for exactly that purpose. Respect their time and what they offer as guidance for you to improve. Whatever is agreed or worked through, insure you carry the actions out otherwise you simply waste their, and more importantly, your own time and money.

Coaching to Success are here to help you either directly or through recommendations. For you to really start on your new path of success, first contact Neil on 07761 187238 or email neil@coachingtosuccess.co.uk where you’ll be assured a warm welcome to discuss how we can help. You’ll get a better understanding of Neil too by watching our interview video at https://youtu.be/RvCwOL4hPc

Decision making made easy…

Things used to be quite simple when it came to decision making. Take purchasing cars for example, how much money do I have? New or second hand? What make, usually a small selection of manufactures. Finally what model?

In the 1970s the top ten cars were Ford Cortina, Ford Escort, Morris Marina, Mini, Vauxhall Viva, Austin Allegro (All-agro as my wife calls them having had one as a first car!), Ford Capri, Austin 1100, Ford Granada and the Hillman/Chrysler Avenger and these were prominent as new/second hand cars in the 80s too.

Top selling car in the UK at the moment is the Ford Fiesta but there are 11 models within the Fiesta banner. On top of that, all the variations of stereos, Sat-Nav, colours etc just compound the decision further. Ford’s tag line is “A good dilemma to have…” but is it?

Our options used to be simpler when it came to purchases but this has now become so confusing and it does not stop there. Decision making then flows out to home, family, work with the endless we have.

A good way for decision making is to know what your starting boundaries are. For example, our TV is on the blink so we’re looking for a new one. Its position in relation to viewing distance means a 43” set would be ideal, however, surely a 55” would be better? NO! There’s science behind this and not being a scientist, I’m inclined to go with those who are in the know.

Next is to decide if it needs to connect to the Wi-Fi as a smart TV and any other details pertaining to what we want from it … and only then did the search begin with narrowing it down to a choice of 3 sets. Now that is an easier decision to make.

The ‘Decision Tree’ is another tool that helps and especially so in business. Where you find yourself following the options and going through the process.

This follows a YES/NO process. For every question you ask, you travel a Yes/No path which in turn leads to another question which might be as simple as “Does this resolve your situation”, if YES, then “what is the conclusion”, if NO then further avenues of exploration are required. Note though, some Yes or No questions may in turn join another question already answered but as a result of the new path you took, the answer may be different.

This format may lead you to ask and answer more questions than you originally started with but through exploration, these questions may well raise the subconscious thought processes which were unknowingly holding you back.

Although not conducive to creating a final decision, a tool that helps you lay down everything you have to work with is the Spider Diagram where you take the principal subject matter (ie Business Growth) and from this you draw a line each reaching out to the subgroups (ie Marketing, Client Base, Sales, Finances, Competition etc) then each of these subgroups push out to what makes it up (ie Marketing: Demographics, Social Media, Strategies, Pricing, Promotion, Feedback…)

Once it is out of our heads and down on paper/screen, they are no longer vying for position enabling us to see them more clearly. From this, we can make decisions easier as we have a bigger overall view (much like getting a TV where you can see all of the screen comfortably, but I will not harp on about that, lol) that in turn enables us to focus on specific areas rather than all at the same time.

Throughout all of this, the underlining element is questions. Before you can make a decision, questions need to be asked and at Coaching to Success, this is what we do best. Incisive questioning cuts through all the layers and gets to the root areas for decision making.

If this is something you wish for yourself or your team, make the first decisive decision and contact Neil on 07761 187238 or email neil@coachingtosuccess.co.uk where you’ll be assured a warm welcome to discuss how we can help. You’ll get a better understanding of Neil too by watching our interview video at https://youtu.be/RvCwOL4hPco

When all around you seems to be collapsing…

Sometimes when things seem to go wrong, you think “Why do I bother?”. I’ve had one of those weeks where my front door key snapped off IN the door! The oven’s heating element burnt out and to top it off, the Blue Ray player decides it no longer likes discs.

All typical things that can affect our perseverance when it comes to work or home.

Why did I not give up? Partly because I could not get in to cook dinner so we could then watch a film. Seriously, it was not so much the action as the attitude! It would have been easy to have a tantrum or feel aggrieved but no. Although an uninvited hassle, resolving the situation would insure things returned to normality or, more importantly, when things really matter, improving the end situation.

Easier said than done so here are a few tips to change the mindset towards a positive outcome by ‘Perseverance’.

Believe in yourself: “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right” (Henry Ford). Give up on trying and start doing. If you have doubt, ‘Trying’ something gives you permission to fail. Believe in yourself and commit psychologically to achieving it.

Evidence based actions: I have been as guilty as others for worrying about what might or might not happen. As the saying goes, attack is the best form of defence. Rather than getting tied up in the worry, recognise it then quickly get on with it so as to reduce the build-up of worry.

Put procrastination in her place: With today’s fast moving pace, laptops, tabs and mobile phones mean we are available 24/7. Or are we? Don’t let technology or others dominate and control your precious time. Allocate time to attend to them rather than being enslaved. What is the true reality of having to ‘immediately’ answer the device as it beckons you or are you simply procrastinating?

Reflection: Each day, look back over what you have done and make a note somewhere of what you achieved. Each week or month (depending on time scales), spend time reading over your notes to re-kindle the motivation to carry on.

Automation: It may seem obvious but reduce the time spent on repetitive tasks by creating systems, templates and suchlike. Mail Merge, for example, is great for correspondence where minor differences need to be applied to what is otherwise a long winded process especially those that are required weekly/monthly.

Understanding: Avoid shying away from a task due to lack of knowledge. Do not be afraid to ask questions. Improve your understanding of the situation. This may be as simple as establishing the required outcome rather than a perceived one! If you are not familiar with something, ask those in the know. People like to share their knowledge so never be afraid to ask someone something they will enjoy talking about.

Keep the end in sight: Goal setting along with the actions to achieve it are what Coaching to Success specialise in. Know what your ultimate goal is. Compartmentalise each element required to get there and set time-framed goals with actions for each step. It is always easier to handle smaller sections of the bigger objective and a great motivator to tick off each as they are done. Much like doing a jigsaw, one piece fits neatly in with the next and before long, you have an amazing picture made up of its several parts.

Coaching to Success work with clients to gain clarity in their end objectives. To break the bigger picture into jigsaw piece size goals and help set realistic times for each. With motivation, clarity and direction, we can help you or those you are responsible for to persevere to the end and feel the benefits of accomplishing it.

To improve your own levels of perseverance, take the first step by watching our interview video at https://youtu.be/RvCwOL4hPco then contact Neil on 07761 187238 or email neil@coachingtosuccess.co.uk where you’ll be assured a warm welcome to discuss how we can help.

I’m too busy to procrastinate!

Abraham Lincoln once quoted “You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.” Easy words to read but often hard to action

Speaking to a colleague only today about how I have certain tasks I need to accomplish but that even I was allowing procrastination to sidle in next to me and lure me away from starting.

Knowing that the task was going to be quite time-consuming yet also aware that it could be broken into parts, I still avoided that initial step thinking other jobs took priority (including a quick game of PC Solitaire!).

I recognised the signs, even so, still managed to avoid starting. Fortunately for me, having this other person to make me accountable gave me the required kick-start.

If like me, you have been putting things off or simply wish to create then stick to a new objective, here are my tips to help you get to grips and move positively forward:

Why can’t I start this? – Find the core reason that is holding you back. What problems, perceived or otherwise, are there that hinder you from getting on with it? Look at the situation, yourself, the task/project/objective and ask yourself why you keep procrastination. Dig deep and answer honestly.

“Begin with the End in Mind” (Dr. Stephen R. Covey) – Start the day as you mean to carry on. There are some great Time-Management tools that can be found on our web site that help here. Consider planning your day’s activities in advance and if you have to have a Social Media fix, gaming set a time to do this rather than having it/them keep pinging on your device as a distraction.

Play indoor football! – Not literally but consider the ‘Goal’. Indoor has ‘Mini-Goals’ so set attainable targets that you can reach within the allotted time.

If the overall task is large, as is the one I mentioned previously for me, look to break it down into smaller parts and set time-lines to complete each. Procrastination feeds off boredom if a reachable end is out of sight.

Self-appreciation – With each completed task or segment of a larger goal, reward yourself accordingly as recognition for what you achieved. Lack of appreciation is often a main cause for procrastination so refrain from relying on others to offer it. Know that you have accomplished your set objective and reward yourself with something that’s relative to the task. One client rewarded himself with an iPad once he hit a set target but that was relevant to the order he achieved. I reward myself with a decent cup of coffee LoL when finishing features such as this. Make the reward relevant but also meaningful.

Break the Habit – As with many other factors creating who we are, procrastination may well have now become a habit for you. Reminding yourself of the consequences that are attached to it may well be the first step to take. We all know the motivational use of carrot and stick scenario and although not PC as a tool to use, the principle is a good way of looking at what drives you. Are you tempted more by reward or reprimand? Look at the consequences of failing to reach your objective then assess what you need to do to give you the motivation to reach your goal and then you can get a free time and do you pc games and your favorite online games like Counter and LoL.

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Also, let others know so you can hold yourself accountable to someone else!

Coaching to success work towards breaking down barriers, assessing what’s ahead and planning to succeed in whatever goal their clients wish to attain. To improve your own levels of procrastination or focus, take the first step by watching our interview video at https://youtu.be/RvCwOL4hPco then contact Neil on 07761 187238 or email neil@coachingtosuccess.co.uk  where you’ll be assured a warm welcome to discuss how we can help.

No better time to focus… Than NOW!

Whether parties are looming or seasonal jobs (such as Accounts being in high demand December/January) are upon you, while looking to find stress free ways to manage the workload, we can all fall foul to that beast we know as procrastination. One of the best ways to free from stress is to have a party with a lot of food and drinks from Oddbins.

Even as a business coach, I am not immune to the temptations of more interesting tasks or projects, especially when I’m having to deal with an area I am not comfortable with such as the Belbin Team Role position of ‘Finisher’, which is often the case for those who constantly seek new opportunities! The excitement has waned by then.

So whether you find it difficult to start a job, monitor its progress or lose motivation once the initial enthusiasm has passed, here are some great tips to keep you on track:

Mini Snacks: Ask yourself “What can I achieve in 5 minutes that will move this forward by even the smallest amount TODAY?” Then set about doing it. Scientific research shows we are more likely to actually complete a task once we set about starting it.

Emotional boost: Pick a song you really relate to for the task in hand. Some of my friends would look amazed to know that I tune into Classic FM when writing these features but I find it calming and allows me to think as there are no lyrics. Find songs that inspire you for the task in hand.

Place a Wager: Look to a friend or someone you believe can hold you accountable and place a bet with them! Make it something you actually having to suffer a loss if you don’t achieve your chosen task. Announce that you will take them out for a meal, take them to see that band they may be but you are not keen on, you will clean their house together with Exterminator Kansas City along their backyard. Create a given day/time of the following week, or whatever time scale you work to, and it is down to them to check in at that time to redeem their wager should you have failed in your objective. Great incentive because it is lack of face as much as financial or whatever the bet is.

Rewards: On a flip side, set about rewarding yourself for completing a task like pampering yourself with the help of Galumbeck plastic surgery. Make it relative to the task in hand such as I like to make a cafetière of coffee once I’ve written a feature and sit back to read the finished article. Some may have secured a big contract so look to a new car. Set the reward accordingly.

“Umm, that one”: How big is your to-do list? A valuable tip is to know what is most important and FOCUS on that. If you have a lot of things vying for position in your mind, write them all down and put them into order of priority. Then work your way through it with the full knowledge you do not have to focus on anything else as it is written down ready for you to address later.

“Bye”: Let it go, quite simply, if it is not important or it is something someone else can do proficiently, get this off your to-do list and out of your head. If passing it on, we call that delegation, which is a little different but, nonetheless, you no longer need to handle it yourself so give yourself permission to let some things go.

Gym time: If you go to the gym, you will undoubtedly give yourself a set time to powerhouse your way through a set routine. It is no different with a task. Start in 20 minute stages and work up to an hour where you will close the door on all other interruptions or distractions and fully focus, knowing you have a time frame to work to.

What’s going on up there?: Have you ever actually spent time assessing yourself? What are the main factors for holding you back? Is it a fear or lack of perceived knowledge required? Even the most confident among us have fears, myself included, but it helps to be completely honest with yourself so verbally ask “I’m avoiding this task because..”.

Coaching to Success have techniques to help you recognise yours or your team’s strengths as well as areas that you can either work on or realise they are best passed to others whose strengths lie in that given area. Don’t put off something else that can help you move successfully forward, take the first step towards overcoming procrastination by contacting Neil on 07761 187238 or email neil@coachingtosuccess.co.uk, where you will be assured a warm, friendly welcome and the chance to discuss how we can help not only saving time but actually achieving all those tasks.