Have you ever considered how often the things you expect to happen to you, frequently end up happening!?
Often these are areas of our subconscious awareness. Bringing to fore, areas of which we have no awareness, as such, due to the way our subconscious state simply doesn’t evaluate or be judgemental but created from our ‘Beliefs’ regardless whether or not they are true or genuine.
Let me try to explain whilst not to trying to delve too deep into the realms of Erik Erikson child psychology, but often our beliefs are brought about by the way we were brought up and/or treated and these, in turn, are projected on to current or new circumstances but do not fear, by a little re-programming of the subconscious mind, these can be changed.
And here are a few things to try…
- Write a list of all the ‘Positive’ beliefs you have about yourself
- Underneath or against each one, write the positive aspects that occurred to lead you to these beliefs.
- Do the same for all the ‘Negative’ beliefs
- Take the top three or four negative beliefs and ask yourself these questions… (1) Where did this belief originate? (2) What is this belief costing me on a daily or weekly basis? (3) If I continue to hold onto this belief, what will the long term cost be to me? (4) How will my life change if I just abandon or let this belief go?
- Re-write this negative belief into a positive affirmation… i.e. from “I don’t have the physique or stamina to run any distance” to “With training, correct diet and apparel, I could run next year’s marathon”
- Finally, write 5 sentences all starting ‘I must…’. Try not to spend too much time thinking on this, let your mind drift and to come up with the ideas. Once done, for each sentence question yourself and write what would happen if you DIDN’T accomplish them!
In the world of sport, it was stated that man could NOT run a mile in less than 4 minutes. Scientists set about proving the human body was not physically designed to be able to do this so everyone took it as red that this wasn’t achievable… well, up to the point of Roger Bannister who, in 1954, changed his own belief on this matter and broke the record achieving 3:59:4. Funnily enough, this set about a ‘New POSITIVE’ belief and 2 months Later (British Empire and Commonwealth Games, Vancouver), Australia’s John Landy and Britain’s Roger Bannister did it again and from that point a NEW BELIEF has arisen.
Coaching to success has helped numerous people change ‘Negative’ beliefs into ‘Positive’ outcomes and the first step is to simply give us a call on 07761 187238 or email neil@coachingtosuccess.co.uk to discuss what it is that’s holding you back and to see how we can help you move forward.
We look forward to hearing from you.
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